Almost all the time, we let the “ideas” of what others may think of us as roadblocks on our job hunt journey. We think we are “too fat (not slim)”, “too old (not young)”, “not having the right skills”, or “not beautiful/handsome enough” for the job. Or the big one “we have not been working for too long to be hired.”
Stop with the NOTs.
I once read a quote by Norman Vincent Peale, the author of “The Power of Positive Thinking.” It read:
“Success comes in CANS, not in CAN NOTS.”
We will not be able to change what others may think about us.
We are the only person that can change what we are, what we do, and what we think about.
Changing someone else is near impossible. Changing ourselves is not only possible, it is the only way we can make a positive change that will impact our lives. There in lies the secret and also a lot of hard work. Change does not come easy. If change were easy, what value would it have?
There are some things you may not be able to change, personal disabilities, as that is the way God has made you. Remember God does not make junk, so whatever He has given you, it is for a reason and it may be something that is a benefit to help you persevere, grow and serve.
Still there are others, like losing weight, learning new skills, being more outgoing, not afraid to meet new people, creating a new you to look more beautiful or handsome. All of which can take time, work, and effort.
Make the most of what you have
We often say at our meetings, “you are the solution to a company’s problem.” You certainly have to discover the talents you have that become the solutions. Sometimes that will involve others to tell you what they see in you. In my business I tell my clients, what they offer in the way of products and services is NOT what their prospects are looking for. Prospects are looking for Solutions to Problems. Yes, the products and services are what a business offers, and it is through them that the solutions to a prospect’s problems are found .
It is the same thing on a job hunt. You have skills and abilities, but what a business is looking for is how you would take those skills and abilities and package it as a solution to solve their problems. No one on the earth has the same skills, abilities and experience that you do. ABSOLUTELY NO ONE! Don’t think less of yourself, think more.
Change takes time, and don’t give into fear
My wife tells people she meets that it took her a couple of years to break me out of my shell. And she has spent the last 30+ years trying to put me back in. Makes for a good chuckle at parties.
Yes, I was once very introverted and had fears of being rejected. I even had a hard time asking her out on the first date. I was afraid to talk in front of people, meet new people, what others may think about me. Over the years, I made a choice to break out of my shell and never go back in. I actually took a sales job that forced me to do what I did not want to do. There are times even today, that I do not want to go to the meeting, or make that call, as I fear being rejected. It still plagues me. Those are times when I feel that Satan is just trying to get me to crawl back into my shell and stay in a comfort zone. That is not where God wants me. I turn over those fears to him so I can be who he wants me to be here and now. Until God call you home, you had better be pressing forward, growing and making positive changes…be in the uncomfortable zone.
It is about Mindset
I struggle with being overweight and have done so most of my life. Most of the time, I picture myself much thinner than what I am, that causes me not to make the changes I need to make in order to loose weight. I have to have a change in how I think about myself and what actions I need to take to get into shape and loose weight. It is an on-going struggle.
You have have seen a TV show called “My 600 Lb. Life.” For those people, they made the choice to make a change in their lives through surgery and lifestyle. Some succeed and yet others still fail. I applaud those that made the choice to change. Those that succeed, they still battle how they picture themselves. Even though they are in a new skinny body, they think they are still the fat person they once had been. They had been overweight for years, so it will take a long time for them to “heal” or re-program their minds.
Another struggle they realize is how different people will treat them as a slim person versus how they were treated when they were fat. Yes, people will react and treat people differently based on what they see. That is sad, but it is a fact of life. I guess we all do it to one degree or another. Still we as individuals just have to ignore what others are thinking or how we may think they are thinking and move on. God is going to open that door or window to a job just right for you.
Do not let the thought of what others may think hold you back. Change your mindset. Surround yourself with other people that will help you reinforce the many positive aspects of your skills, abilities, and personality.
That is why you need to overcome negative thoughts, thoughts about how others think, and only care about how you think. They are shallow, you are deep. Turn the negative thoughts over to God to handle, you are going to be too busy to be bothered by them.
Blessings upon you.